Bay Area Babes! Come and Play with me this weekend at Carnival of Stars!

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Hey magical mamacitas,

This is a quick-and-happy announcement:

This weekend I’m bringing Tarot and Tea to the nation’s only comic book convention + belly dancing show (!!!!), Carnival of Stars!

Here are the dirty deets:

Carnival of Stars 2014

Richmond Auditorium (near the Richmond BART station)

403 Civic Center Plaza, Richmond, CA

Saturday August 2 10am – 10pm

Sunday August 3 10am – 8pm

$15 at the door

www.carnivalofstars.com

I’ll be there tabling with my Cartoon Art Museum babes, offering $10 tarot readings (!!!) and tins of my Moonblessed Ritual Tea Blends!

SERIOUSLY GUYS. This event is the dopest, most delicious party around.

If you’re in the Bay Area, swing on by this weekend, say hi, and get yourself a Tarot reading!

CHICKA YEAH~!

xoxo

Paige

 

photo from the Carnival of Stars Facebook page

I’m Grateful for My Blessings

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It’s a Dark Moon in Scarab.*

*aka Cancer. See this post by Mystic Medusa.

Understandably, I’m having a lovely slow-down time.

I really, really love the Dark Moon.

It’s the time when women naturally menstruate.

It’s the time when we naturally want to curl up, quiet down, and recharge.

I’m a fierce advocate for the practice of living within and honoring our natural cycles. SO MUCH of the modern world is detached from the basic rhythm of natural life.

Growing up in New England, this became clear every time it snowed and we had to chip our icy car doors open with a credit card. Not to mention the way cars tend to do loop-de-loops on snowy highways. It always mystified me why we weren’t allowed to hibernate, or at least work from home! Oh sure, let’s all drive our giant bullets into a blizzard – because heavens forbid the mall close for a day!

Anyway.

During Dark Moons I give myself permission to take it easy, go slow, and be thoughtful.

It’s a sacred opportunity to de-tangle any knots of stress that have formed over the last lunar cycle.

And, as surely everyone must know by now, practicing gratitude is one of the best ways to de-tangle stress and re-align with bliss.

So, in the fashion of Things I Love Thursday, I invite you to think about the blessings you’re grateful for, right now.

This is what I’m especially grateful for today:

Cats that purr loudly • Sun-warmed skin • Rainbows in the hose-spray • Birdsong • Big ole pots of tea • Roasted sweet potatoes with rosemary picked straight from the garden • Magical friends • Webster’s Dictionary • Deciding to replace the word “hustle” with the word “transmit” in my vocabulary • The beauty of animal bones • Messages from my ancestors • Dark, cool kitchen sanctuaries • The smell of sheets dried outside on the line • The nighttime illumination of candles • Clean socks • Apricot preserves • Free Animal Spirits Oracle Readings • Elephants • The pleasure of tending a plant and seeing it thrive • Fuckin’ ice cream, man • Tea cosies which keep your tea warm and also make great hats • Writers whose words are so delightful I must read them aloud • The Ellis decK • My Instagram crew • Not having cable TV • Delicious wine • The generosity of friends • Receiving pictures of my boyfriend posing with his store’s kitten whose name is Special Agent Jack Bauer • Nighttime magick • Fuckin’ books, man • People who aren’t ashamed to admit they enjoy Pokémon cards (ahem hem)

Please, take a minute today and write down what you’re grateful for. Start with the obvious – the blessings will reveal themselves as you go.

And if you’d like to share, please do!

xoxo

Paige

Introversion vs Insomnia: Seeking Stillness in a World that’s Always On

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I used to identify as an insomniac.

And it’s true that my sleep pattern has been, ah…less than normal for most of my life.

At 9 months of age I was down to one nap a day, and was totally nap-free before I was two (to my poor mother’s dismay).

I remember the pleasure of being awake at daycare while all the other children slept.

I remember the freedom and joy of having all the Play-Doh to myself. I even have a photograph of myself next to a sculpture I was able to make, unmolested, during nap-time.

TOTALLY FREAKING AWESOME

Artistic freedom! What triumph, what liberation. What bliss.

As an angsty teenager, I valued my solitude. I easily fell prey to the high school pattern of late nights and early mornings. Between homework, instant messaging, and allllll of the fanfiction (aw yeah), I typically got to bed around 1 am, then was up again at 6 to get to school.

and you, sweet chickadee? how do you sleep these days?

I don’t sleep that way anymore (thank Bob).

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Now, I can feel the impending groan but I proudly confess: I am a morning person.

Like, totally.

Up between 5 and 6 just about every morning, “sleeping in” to me means getting up at 7:30 or (heavens forbid) as late as 8.

I’m absurdly cheerful in the morning. I’m practically (and often literally) singing.

I JUST LOVE MORNINGS OKAY

One thing I loved most about the insomniac lifestyle -

(especially in art school, where all-nighters reign king)

- was approaching dawn from the far side of night.

I’m a morning person, and I LOVE DAWN.

To me, sunrise is a jewel far more precious than sunset.

The thing is: morning people who stay up really, really late do not feel very good after a while.

I began to think about it. Insomnia, the stillness of night and the stillness of dawn.

I began to realize something.

Night has always felt so sacred, so wonderful, so special to me.

I figured it out!

IT’S BECAUSE I GET TO BE ALONE.

oh yeah

introverts come out at night

Night is silent. Night is still.

Night is where I can be a happy introvert, all alone, without worrying whether someone will interrupt me, or whether the phone will ring, or which kind of chores I might be called upon to complete.

Night is where I can hunker down and get into the meditative Art Zone.

Night is where I can be still.

Here’s the thing:

You can get still and still get sleep.

It took me a long time to realize that truth.

When I realized that stillness is at the heart of the matter, I began living my life with stillness programmed into my day. I found that I no longer needed to stay up late.

Nowadays, I’m typically in bed by 10. It’s great.

This morning I went up to the roof just before dawn. The bulbous waning moon hung in the lightening sky; soft warm light bled upwards between the buildings.

The city was quiet – as quiet as cities get.

I breathed deep, deep, deep into the still chillness of dawn.

IT FEELS GOOD

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It’s worth it, investing in stillness.

You don’t have to get up at 5am to enjoy its benefits, either.

Wherever you are in the world, whatever you do in the day, you can find yourself a few minutes of stillness.

In the car, on the bus, under the sky.

In your room, in the shower, in the bath.

In your mind.

Spend some time alone in there, sweet thing. It’s healing. It’s whole.

How to be Still:

  • Get quiet. Embrace silence.
  • Get motionless. Be at rest.
  • Get calm. Release agitation.
  • Repeat with regularity.

Choose one or all of the above. Practice stillness.

If you’re an introvert like me, you already know how much it fills your well.

If you’re an extrovert and draw your energy from others, you may find your sense of intuition sharpened by stillness.

And be sure to get some sleep.

however you, um, can.

however you, um, can.

xoxo

Paige

Tarot Q&A: Where Should I Start?

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I get A LOT of questions about how to read Tarot.

A while back, I asked my Instagram chickadees for their questions.

Since then, I’ve been teaching and working on education resources. Until those resources are ready, I’ve decided to answer some of those pesky Tarot questions here on the blog.

Q&A BAY-BAY!

Q. Where should I start?

This is one of the most common questions I receive – and guys, I TOTALLY GET IT.

Getting started on anything is often the most difficult part.

[ASTROLOGY ALERT]

I’m a lucky Aries. Mars in Taurus sits smack dab in my 1st House of action, meaning when something catches my attention NOTHING can stand between me and the object of my interest.

(Oh yes, it will be mine.)

I’m like a bull with rocket boosters. Once my sight is fixed on something, that’s it. The boosters are fired up, the bull paws the ground, and before you can say hunka munka meatballs I’m off.

The point is, I’m pretty good at getting started – and helping others do the same.

Lots of my people struggle getting started.

They want to make sure they get it RIGHT. The fear of “doing it wrong” is one of the worst mind-plagues in our modern world.

So what usually happens is they procrastinate by looking around to see what everyone else is doing.

“Maybe if I just follow her for a while…she’s sure to show me all the secrets of Doing It Exactly Perfect On The First Try.”

NEIN.

whither shall you wander?

Here’s how you get started reading Tarot:

Find a deck you like and play with it.

That’s pretty much it.

Find a deck that YOU like. Find a deck of cards that resonates with you.

Nobody else can do this for you, really.

Here’s the thing: I’ve tried to read with decks that did NOT resonate with me.

And…it kind of didn’t work.

The intuitive connection just wasn’t there. I had to rely on my intellectual knowledge of the card meanings, which makes for an okay reading but not a great one.

But when you read with a deck that resonates with you? Magic happens.

Seriously.

When you read with a deck that resonates with you, it doesn’t matter if you have an intellectual knowledge of the cards yet (that part comes later). You’ll have an intuitive connection and you’ll be able to give a reading that is accurate and speaks to the situation at hand.

I know this is true: I have seen it happen first-hand many times.

So get a deck that resonates with you.

Some things you should know:

  • You can find and purchase ONLINE a deck that resonates with you. Yes, you really can. In fact, if you feel connected to a deck and you’re able to buy it directly from the artist/creator via their website, so much the better!
  • I don’t believe you have to receive a deck as a gift. Many folks come to me worried that if they buy their own deck, it will be “wrong” or something, just because they’ve heard that Tarot must be given as a gift. That is not how I was taught. If you are called to be a reader, it’s a disservice to humanity if you sit around waiting for someone to give you cards. Make that shit happen for yourself.
  • Ultimately, you should do what feels right to you. All the advice in the world won’t do you any good if you don’t listen to your own heart at the end of the day. Take the wisdom and advice of others into consideration, and decide for yourself what resonates and what doesn’t. There truly is no wrong way to do it, as long as you’re coming from a place of resonance. Ask yourself: does this feel right? If the answer is NO or ambiguous, seek another way. Listen more closely to yourself. Do what feels right.

But Paige, what if I have *no idea* where to start looking for a deck?

No problem! Here are some of my favorite decks and, at the bottom, links to websites where you can browse for your own.

DOPE DECKS AHOY~!

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clockwise from top left: The Wild Unknown; The Wildwood Tarot; Shadowscapes Tarot; The Ellis decK; Tarot of the Cat People; Dark Goddess Tarot

Isn’t it amazing how varied the decks are?

There really is a deck out there for everyone.

Here’s where you can find them:

The Wild Unknown Tarot by Kim Krans

One of the most popular decks around today, the beautifully illustrated and understated Wild Unknown deck is simple yet evocative in its natural imagery. A true gem.

The Wildwood Tarot by Mark Ryan, John Matthews, and Will Worthington

My first deck, and my all-time favorite. A further departure from the RWS than the Ellis decK, these cards are rich with Celtic and Druid symbolism. Animals represent the Court Cards and the Major Arcana have been completely renamed, from 0 The Wanderer to 13 The Journey to 21 The World Tree. Will Worthington, a Druid himself, lovingly created the most stunning ink-and-watercolor artwork. As a watercolorist myself, I love the muted palette and woodland vibe. If you dig woodlands and animals and shit, you will dig this deck.

The Shadowscapes Tarot by Stephanie Pui-Mun Law

Creator Stephanie Pui-Mun Law has been one of my favorite artists since I was about 12 or 13. Her watercolor art just makes me want to pee my freaking pants, you guys. Etherial, fantastical, feminine and strong, this deck is not one to be missed.

The Ellis decK by Taylor Ellis

Created by the wonderfully talented and hilarious Taylor Ellis, aka @thunderwolfmoonking, this vibrant RWS-based deck is one of my all-time favorites. I met Taylor at SFBATS last year, and fell so deeply in love with the cards that I ordered myself a deck as soon as I could. I especially love his use of animals and colors in the four suits: Ravens for Swords, Foxes for Rods, Hogs for Coins, and Seahorses for Cups. Also, his depiction of Rods/Wands is probably my favorite of all time. They’re like, the coolest fire-flowers! With little roots! I totally dig it.

Tarot of the Cat People by Karen Kuykendall

I’m in love with the wonderfully ’70s vibe going on in this fantastical deck – and with the gorgeous paintings. There’s a storybook that goes along with the deck, but I’ve never read it. I enjoy the deck and its many, many cats just fine all on its own.

Dark Goddess Tarot by Ellen Lorenzi-Prince

At the top of my Desperately Desired list, this beautiful deck is rich with goddesses from all over the globe. Great for those interested in learning more about this kind of thing.

& a bonus! 2 great websites for Tarot Deck Discovery:

Llewellyn Worldwide

Famed publishers of magical books, Llewellyn also carries Tarot decks and accessories.

Aeclectic Tarot

Pretty much THE online repository for Tarot deck information, this site lists just about every deck in existence (as far as I know). Browse your heart out.

I hope this is helpful to you, sweet chickadees.

Remember that nothing has to be as hard as we sometimes make it out to be.

You CAN start reading Tarot.

All you need is a rockin’ vibratin’ deck and a little faith in the your intuition!

If you have Tarot questions you’d like me to answer on the blog, email me @ zaferiou (at) gmail (dot) com.

Happy reading!

xoxo

Paige

Magical Marks: Yes, You Can Change Your Signature

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I used to get in trouble for “overly creative penmanship.”

Held after school for parent teacher meetings.
(My mom blamed it on Redwall.)

Truth is, I was just bored. Experimenting with penmanship was fun, and challenging, and gave me a sense of control in the highly structured world of grade school.

It was delightful to focus my beam of attention on manipulating the shapes of the letters, the way they fit together, and the ornamentation that frolicked around them.

Manipulating my penmanship was magic.

Recently, I found myself going through boxes of old notebooks in my parents’ homes. I was astonished at how drastically my handwriting has changed over the years. It’s like I was a totally different person!

And I think there’s something vital in that thought. We have been different people, we have all developed and evolved and changed throughout our lives, and our handwriting is a reflection of those changes whether we’re aware of it or not.

But what if we got conscious about it?

When was the last time you thought about your penmanship?

Do you like your handwriting?
Do you think it’s messy?
Do you adore the script that flows from your pen?
Do you even write by hand anymore in this digital age?

In a world full of things we cannot change…

(our boyfriend, our boss, the temperature, the punctuality of the bus)

…it’s vital that we look around and get honest about what we CAN change, what we CAN control.

Your penmanship is totally one of those things.

Now, let me tell you: it’s not easy to change your handwriting. You can do it (in high school I decided to start writing D differently), but it takes a lot of practice and conscious awareness.

I’m not suggesting you immediately attempt to redesign your entire style of penmanship.

However…

There is one area of penmanship that IS easy to change, that CAN be harnessed as a tool for empowerment and self-love.

A good place to begin – especially in the digital age where email reigns king over handwritten vassals – is with your signature.

We still sign for stuff. If you pay with a card more often than not, you probably have to write your signature every day!

A signature is a representation of yourself. It is a statement of you. It is a promise, a mark that says who you are and that you were here.

And that is magic.

A signature is a powerful thing.

A signature is magic.

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thems some good sigs

Imagine if you could love your signature. Writing it could bring you a surge of pleasure, power, and self-love.

Imagine that!

(Awwwww yeah.)

GOOD IMAGINES GUYS

How to Design a New Signature

The only way to design a new signature is to play around with it until you find something that feels like YOU.

Experiment until you find a signature that feels oh-so-tastliciously-YOU.

Maybe that’s just your name printed plain in tall letters, like my boyfriend does.

Maybe it’s a Classic Doctor Scribble, completely illegible and yet full of confidence.

Maybe it’s large and loopy, like a movie star makes.

Maybe it’s just an X!

Play with it.

Channel your inner grade school girl and practice your new signature in the margins of everything.

And remember: you have power.

Names are magic.

AND SO ARE YOU

Want to know what my signature looked like, before I reclaimed it?

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poor confused signatures

I was clearly confused. My signature almost never looked the same twice. Signing my name was frustrating and certainly NOT full of ease, joy, and self-love.

At the bottom of the page you can see what my signature looks like now.

Signing my name is joyful, easy, and I get loads of complements from cashiers and bank tellers.

I can do it – so can you!

Happy signing~

xoxo

Paige

Sandy The Zine: By Bad Bitches, For Bad Bitches

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Did you know I contribute to a feminist ‘zine named Sandy?

DANG TOOTIN’

I am very proud to be the resident Lunar Goddess & Tarot Contributor for Sandy the Zine, slinging metaphysical wisdom in my column Live by the Moon.

Fellow Blogcademy graduate Suzy Mae (www.suzymae.com) tempted me on board this delicious project (it wasn’t hard – witchy women and men creating thoughtful feminist content?! Count me IN!).

If you want to know what it looks like when witchy women get together, this is it:

 

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me & Suzy Mae, witchy women extraordinaire at The Blogcademy LA, April 2013

That’s pretty much what it feels like inside the black-and-white pages of Sandy the Zine.

In her own words, Sandy is:

“A feminist ‘zine by bad bitches and for bad bitches, dedicated to the fine art of Women Supporting Women.”

Here’s what you can expect from Issue Two of Sandy the Zine!

Guidance & inspiration for today’s powerful lady:

  • Ask a Boss: Advice from a Boss Lady
  • Eat This! with Chef Miriam
  • Live By the Moon: Monthly Tarot with Paige Zee
  • Miss Sandy’s School for the Digitally Wayward
  • City Woman: St Louis with Sarah Hillenbrand Varela
  • Sandy Mixtape

Special articles to induce deep thought:

  • Lesser Known Spinsters, by Karla Kaminsky
  • Why Get Married? by Suzy Mae
  • Curse of the Bad Bitch, by Amanda Lee McCarty
  • I got Married, and… by Mary, Martina, Julia, & Tami

Plus!

  • Comics by Suzette Smith & Suzy Mae
  • Illustrations by Kevin d’Aguiar, Bobbi Wall, Gillian Masland, Moa Marslund & Karen Silverman

DO YOU DIG IT, BABY KITTENS?!

I dig it so hard I’m about ready to peeeee mah pants.

Please support these fine ladies and the work of their hearts.

Issues One and Two of Sandy the Zine are available now at www.sandythezine.bigcartel.com for only $4 each – and shipping to the US is only a dollar!

HOT DOG!

Get your sweet buns on the case!

MEOW DIDDY!

xoxo

Paige